We’re looking back at the top episodes of the Successful Generations Podcast from 2019. First up is this episode with Dr. John Townsend, author of Entitlement Cure. He explains entitlement and offers tools to avoid it in your children, your family and yourself.
In this episode, Ellie is joined by Dr. John Townsend, a psychologist, leadership expert, speaker, and New York Times Best Selling Author. Dr. Townsend has written ~30 books, but for this conversation, we’re focused on Entitlement Cure: Finding Success in Doing Hard Things the Right Way (link below in resources).
As Ellie describes in the intro, one of the questions she hears most is from families asking, “What should we do to stave off entitlement?” To that end, Dr. Townsend offers several definitions, examples, and actions to take immediately to course-correct entitlement in your children, your family, and yourself.
We explore Dr. Townsend’s recommended tools and tips for curing entitlement, including:
- Change your verbiage from “I deserve…” to “I’m responsible…”
- Do hard things first
- Keep inconvenient commitments
- Be part of a community
Learn more about Dr. Townsend and his work at drtownsend.com.
Notable & Quotable:
A really successful life takes work. —Dr. John Townsend #successfulgenerations
Service and altruism are kind of like anti-depressants. —Dr. John Townsend #successfulgenerations
Good conversations sometimes involve tough truths. —Dr. John Townsend #successfulgenerations
If we always take the easy route, we’re missing out on a heck of a lot of life. —Ellie Frey Zagel #successfulgenerations
In this episode:
- Intro to the topic of entitlement (:09)
- Meet Dr. John Townsend (2:25)
- What is entitlement and what’s wrong with it? (4:27)
- Giving as a cure to entitlement (6:35)
- Why call entitlement a disease? (8:44)
- Pocket entitlement (9:54)
- Conflict avoidant boards (13:55)
- How is entitlement created in a family (16:36)
- Entitlement in a family business (20:17)
- What are the hard way principles? (23:40)
- Tools (29:49)
- Bonus questions (41:41)
Resources from this episode:
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Dr. John Townsend is a New York Times bestselling author, business consultant, leadership coach, and psychologist. He has written over 30 books, selling 10 million copies, including the Boundaries series and his newest book, Leading From Your Gut,
For more than twenty years, Dr. Townsend has engaged with leaders, organizations, and individuals around the globe, offering them life-changing solutions to their challenges. He and his organization provide team and executive coaching, corporate consulting, and give conference presentations. Dr. Townsend personally also coaches families and family businesses.
John has launched TownsendNOW.com, a digital content and experience base for those wanting to lead and grow. In addition, the Townsend Leadership Program, which develops leaders nationwide, is conducted by a team of Directors who have been personally trained by John. Dr. Townsend is also founder of the online Townsend Institute for Leadership and Counseling at Concordia University Irvine, offering graduate degrees and credentialing in Organizational Leadership, Executive Coaching and Counseling.
John is a co-host of the nationally syndicated talk show “New Life Live,” which is heard in 180 markets with 3 million listeners and is Clinical Director of the American Association of Christian Counselors.
Dr. Townsend is active on the board of Mustard Seed Ranch, a residential program for abused children. A resident of Newport Beach, California, Dr. Townsend and his wife Barbi have two adult sons, Ricky and Benny. One of John’s hobbies is playing in a band with his sons. “The Bandits” play at Southern California venues!
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