In This Episode:
“Everything just works better when we are on the same page.”
My clients tell me being on the “same page” with their significant other at work (and at home), is ideal. Yet, sometimes staying on the same page can be incredibly hard to do.
This is the perfect episode for those who work with their significant others. Whether you are stepping into a leadership and ownership transition or you are the founder of your business, if you work with your spouse, this is the episode for you.
To help me better define what I am calling “Same Page Leadership,” I asked my friend, the incredibly talented Maggie Reyes. Maggie is a marriage coach and mentor for Type A working women.
Here are a list of questions I asked Maggie:
Maggie, tell us a little about yourself: How did you come to be “The Best Marriage Coach” in the world?
I have clients who work with their spouses– the assumption is always, “things are so much better when we are on the same page”. This is something I am calling “Same Page Leadership.” Would you agree with this assumption? Why/why not? Do you see this in your work?
When couples aren’t on the same page– what does that look like? Why aren’t they on the same page?
- The role of arguments: productive v. destructive
- Maggie’s Understanding = Love Myth
What are a few ways/techniques/exercises spouses who work with each other can stay on the same page?
- Two Tools to Get and Stay on the Same Page
You have a new book out– tell us why you wrote this book?
Guest Bio (in Blog Form):
Hello! I am Maggie Reyes. A Life Coach, Writer and Marriage Mentor.
I love helping whole-hearted women (yes, that means you) re-think, how deep, rich and fabulous (and sexy!) married life can be.
More than anything in the world, I care about love and keeping that engaged, connected feeling fresh and alive and blooming for your whole life.
I believe we heal and change the world one love at a time. So your marriage matters to more than just you, it matters to everyone your life touches, whether you are stopped at a traffic light, doing groceries or raising a family.
If there is one thing I get really excited about it is seeing happy couples thriving. As individuals and as a team.
I also get really excited about Haagen Dazs Rocky Road ice cream, super-hero movies, inspiring self-help books, and pizza. Although I am currently completely obsessed with the TV show ARROW and all things #Olicity, I get even more excited about creating a life you love with the love your life, whatever that looks like for you.
Prior to writing and coaching, I spent most of my career working in Human Resources – training, recruiting, mentoring and regularly talking my team mates off the ledge of a very stressful day.
In other words, I was coaching before I knew what coaching was.
Then, when I was getting married I noticed there were countless articles on how to fold napkins and choose the perfect flowers, but very little was written about how two great people can have an awesome marriage.
Couples in crisis were covered – counseling and therapists and all kinds of resources were around for dire emergencies, but I found exactly one book (this one) about the emotional transition from bride to wife.
I wanted to be a great wife and yet not lose myself in the process of being amazingly, delightfully married.
I wanted to create my own personal relationship revolution, teaching happy, healthy people totally do-able ways to make their marriages amazing.
I started reading every marriage book I could find. I went to so many workshops that the hubby dubbed me “a workshop junkie.” Then I enrolled in Life Coach School and started writing.
My husband and my best friend were my first blog readers.
Day by day a few friends became a few more friends and now….
- I’m a certified life coach — which means I’m a highly-credentialed personal trainer for your mind + spirit. I’ve chosen to focus my coaching super-powers on one thing: helping you create a life you love … with the love of your life.
- Besides writing for my own community, I am also a regular contributor to the number one marriage site on the web, Happy Wives Club. (My most shared post? The 7 Habits of Highly Happy Marriages, which has travelled all over the web over 100,000 times. You can read that here.)
- I have a weekly relationship segment on the nationally syndicated radio show DayBreak USA. (You can listen to snippets here.)
- I am supremely honored to say that the world’s leading marriage researchers, The Gottman Institute, have named my blog a blog to watch for great marriage tips.
- The Hubs and I were recently featured in an article in BRIDES magazine about what makes marriages strong. (April/May 2014 Issue – page 382.) For the record, I can totally embrace a well-folded napkin as long as we talk about long-term love too. And BRIDES! OMG! Uberly-excited to be in BRIDES!
- Now my little light house of love has turned into a beautiful community of over 13,000 Facebook friends where we celebrate marriage daily and create the lives we want to live just one little moment at a time.
And to really impress you, I have done all this while focusing primarily on creating a thriving marriage and a life that I am passionately in love with.
The Hubs (aka, my husband) and I have now been married for almost 7 years, but constantly get mistaken for newlyweds — in restaurants, spas, hotel elevators. It’s a little embarrassing. Except that we love it.
No matter where I am writing or speaking, I always focus on practical, do-able tips that help people just like you create lives and marriages that they can truly love.
I believe we change our lives one day at a time.
We aren’t broken and don’t need fixing. We are whole and just have amnesia sometimes.
I love the feeling we get when we remember who we are – beautiful, divine, loved, whole, imperfectly perfect and luminously brilliant. (Yes, that’s both bright and smart!)
To be truly amazing wives, I think we need to know what we love – about ourselves, our work, our husbands.
We are teachable. We can change. With the right tools, a few powerful questions and the intention to create something amazing. We don’t have to know what it looks like.
All we really need to know is how we want to feel.
Good. Satisfied. Powerful. Excited. Empowered. Efficient. Comfortable. Safe. Capable. Loved.
We can practice together.
It’s all possible.
I am thrilled and delighted to support you in your journey. Just by reading this you are supporting me on mine. (How cool is that?)
If you are have the glimmer of a hint that you are ready to move forward into a love-soaked, soul-filled life you can find more inspiration in the Archives or contact me for the details on having a Dream Deeper Coaching Session to bust the door to your dreams wide open. And then make the plan to walk through it.
Confidently. Supportedly. And Brilliantly. And ever so imperfectly.
Because done is always better than perfect.
And ultimately all of my work is about learning how to love and being loved. Loving yourself, your husband and your life, just as you are. Right now.
Because the world is way better when the marriage is even cooler than the wedding.
Feeling inspired? I would be delighted to welcome you to my community, The Better Marriage Club, so you can start your own relationship revolution. Because you really don’t have to be on your honeymoon to love like a newlywed.
How to find Maggie:
Resources From This Episode:
“Defense is the First Act of War” by Byron Katie
https://maggiereyes.com/podcast/4/ Emotional Weightloss
https://maggiereyes.com/podcast/5/ Request vs. Demands
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