Mindset, also referred to as buoyancy or resiliency, speaks to our ability to bounce back. This week’s guest, Dr. Nancy Jonker explains it as, “an invincible sense of how the universe is working for us and our ability to take responsibility for our lives.” Yep, settle in friends, the information in this episode has the potential to change your life.
During our interview, Nancy and I talk a lot about limiting beliefs and how they are actually decisions we make over and over again. (Need a refresher on limiting beliefs? Listen to my Power20 episode on this topic here).
Nancy walks us through the 5 Primary Drivers outlined by David Bayer and illustrated below. Through this cycle, Nancy explains how our beliefs dictate our destiny. Once you understand that your beliefs are decisions, you are empowered to make new and different decisions that better align your goals.
Nancy explains what changing our beliefs and forging new neural pathways looks like in our brains. As we make new decisions to replace our limiting beliefs, we change the filters in our brain and start paying attention to resources, opportunities, and people that are available to us.
To help you get started in this work, Nancy describes a decision matrix that she uses with business leaders all over the world. I hope you set aside some time to try this tool. Tell us about you experience in the comments section below or email me at ellie@
Finally, Nancy and I discuss what it means to approach our lives from a beautiful state of being vs. a suffering state of being. For me, this really underlines the importance of mindset and leadership. We also touch briefly on the incredible power of gratitude.
I am so grateful to Nancy for sharing her time with us and I am also grateful to you for listening. Please enjoy!
Topics discussed in this episode:
- An introduction to mindset (2:35)
- Can people change their beliefs? (5:42)
- The 3 incredible things that happen when you change a belief (8:30)
- Nancy’s path to this work (10:10)
- How Nancy helps business leaders with mindset work (11:10)
- Decision matrix (14:30)
- Using evidence to activate new neuro-pathways in your brain (15:45)
- Flipping the script on negative self-talk (19:45)
- How do mindset and leadership intersect? (22:24)
- Using gratitude to move from struggle to beauty (25:50)
- Fixed vs. growth mindset (28:23)
- Favorite resources (29:55)
- Bonus questions (31:25)
Nancy Jonker, Ph.D., is an experienced psychologist and coach. Her professional career, spanning twenty-eight years includes teaching, trainings, and workshops, transformational retreats, small and large group facilitation, and speaking. She is the author of Get Your POWER On!Her long-standing interests are body/mind integration and empowerment for women. Learn more at nancyjonker.com.
Notable & Quotable:
When we have a limiting belief, we don’t see it as a decision, but it is. We make the decision over and over again until we don’t. —Dr. Nancy Jonker #successfulgenerations
Neurons that fire together, wire together. —Dr. Nancy Jonker #successfulgenerations
Our brain doesn’t differentiate between what’s happening in our imaginations and reality. This is how we can make new decisions and not worry about how they will happen. The how will unfold. —Dr. Nancy Jonker #successfulgenerations
Prioritize and manage your inner state of being. Are you approaching leadership from a beautiful state or a suffering state of being? —Dr. Nancy Jonker #successfulgenerations
Gratitude is the quickest and most powerful way to shift our way of thinking. Whatever we are focusing on is what we create more of. This is why gratitude is so powerful. —Dr. Nancy Jonker #successfulgenerations
Nancy’s advice to her 20-year-old self: Take your scared self by the hand and move towards your dreams, and trust that it’s going to be okay. —Dr. Nancy Jonker #successfulgenerations
Resources mentioned in this episode:
- Nancy Jonker: Author. Speaker. Consultant.
- Brooke Castillo, The Life Coach School
- Get Your Power On! by Nancy Jonker, Ph.D.
- The Power of Decision by Raymond Charles Barker
- Carol Dweck’s fixed vs. growth mindset
- Mindset by Carol S. Dweck Ph.D.
- Mindhack by David R. Bayer
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